Please Look After Mom
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A million-plus-copy best seller in Korea--a magnificent English-language debut poised to become an international sensation--this is the stunning, deeply moving story of a family's search for their mother, who goes missing one afternoon amid the crowds of the Seoul Station subway. Told through the piercing voices and urgent perspectives of a daughter, son, husband, and mother, "Please Look After Mom" is at once an authentic picture of contemporary life in Korea and a universal story of family love. You will never think of your mother the same way again after you read this book.
*****
2012.02.08.
I have almost given up after the first quarter of. Why? Because of the "you" style. Always changing written style disturbed me very much, since I couldn't flow with the story.
In the Daughter's part, this ...you were, you listen, when you go etc... it made me perplexed and I couldn't let myself into the story well. Though after I started to read the Son's part, which was ...he does, he lives, he was.... style, occurred me that in "you style" I not only knew but 'felt' the distance between mother and her daughter, which partly was thanked to of that time society custom, since the daughter-mother relationships were this kind of in that time. Though, neither mother nor daughter didn't take steps to have a better relationship, they actually hardly knew each other.
The "he style" showed that the Son had a different relationship with his mother, being the first son gave him a special position in the family. His action, his thoughts showed how mush was his mother important to him.
Then came the Husband's part, with his "you style" again, but, surprisingly it was different from the daughter's one! Though it also expressed a distance, but a different one, here was a husband, who didn't want to let close to himself his wife, who didn't looked for connection with her. So this distance for the greater part was his fault. The message of his story was sad, and it was painful to read about his ignorance, the many years which were spent together without any emotional contact.
The mother's part... Ahh, it was a while I realized that this part is about the vanished mother. After I solved, who is the "I" in the story, me was flowing together with the story. I was really surprised when turned out, that the mother's dearest child was not the first Son.
Final part was an epilogue, about another daughter's viewpoint, an odd one. It was not a comforting closing at all. Questions were let open. Moreover I missed all children's viewpoint to situation, it was not fair to let out them.
Complex entirety it was an INTERESTING read, though an odd one considering its written style.
Read and passed on: 1. Boekentrol (NED), 2. Tsjara (NED), 3. vassilka (GRE), 4. okyrhoe (GRE), 5. kobie03 (CAN), 6. KiwiinEngland (AUS), 7. romy86 (AUS), 8. bilbi (FRA), 9. Icila (FRA), 10. salvami (IRE), 11. penelopewanders (SUI), 12. muggleme (ITA)
was skipped: J4shaw (AUS), Lunatum (FIN), Martjxox (ITA)
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I will start reading soon, am about half way through a nother ring.
Thank you for sharing & sending it to me, hakkalina! I look forward to read it!
I couldn't feel anything but annopyance for the husband and the darling son that she both spoiled so very much. I felt the urge to grab them at the shoulders and shout at them that their wife / mother is not their personal slave, a mule who's supposed to do all work alone and get nothing in return, not even a thank you or a smile.
The other family members weren't much better at that either.
I think the book did (for me) was it was meant to do: let the world know that we take our moms / family / any significant other and the things that they do for us too much for granted. That message came through, loud and clear. And I think it is true, at least for me in my younger years.
I was put of and annoyed by the style of writing though. I had a hard time getting through the first daughter's story, the second person storyteller got in my way big time.
The I / you that was mom was quite clear, but what I didn't get is the state she was in when that part was told.
I did not like the open end.
Maybe that is used for some reason, but I would like to know how mom's life ended. During her life there was not much attention for her, she was ignored and taken for granted, so at least there could be some end to her story, even though it is a sad one.
Released 12 yrs ago (2/27/2012 UTC) at Leeuwarden, Fryslân (Friesland) Netherlands
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Happy reading, Tsjara!
I liked how as the story continues, you learn more about Mom and the family's life, and it leaves you feeling sort of nostalgic (though I was quite annoyed with the father and sometimes the children - but I guess that was the point, don't take your mother/wife for granted). Not having read much about life in Korea, I found that quite interesting as well, the contrast between the old and the new way of life.. (and sometimes even sort of strangely familiar? :p)
Edit 12 March: PMed vassilka, and waiting for a reply.
Edit 18 March: Received address, will mail the book tomorrow.
Released 12 yrs ago (3/19/2012 UTC) at Assendelft, Noord-Holland Netherlands
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Happy reading!
I wasn't completely satisfied by the way the story ended. I had the feeling there was something missing. However I enjoyed reading it ;as far as I remember I hadn't read anything from a Korean author before.
I'm going to post it to the next reader by the end of this week
"Thanks" to hakkalina for sharing this book with us! Thank you Tsjara for sending it to me:-)
Thanks hakkalina for including me in the bookring, and vassilka for posting the book to me.
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I didn't have any problem with the narrative point of view, actually I was intrigued by the technique, and for me it came off quite well. However, I was disappointed by the epilogue; it seemed like an over the top melodramatic touch that was not necessary. The "closure" of one Mom speaking to her mom I thought was great, and the story should have ended there.
I'm familiar with a few Korean-American writers, but this is probably the first fully Korean work of fiction that I have read.
The rapid modernization of the country from one generation to the other is a major theme in the book. In the back of my thoughts as I read were the stories of living and working Korea in the 60's, as my parents related them to me decades later.
Those blue plastic sandals really got to me - Ouch!
Released 11 yrs ago (6/6/2012 UTC) at book ring/ray, By Mail/Post/Courier -- Controlled Releases
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Loved this book. It speaks to everyone universally,how often we take loved ones for granted and fail to recognize the contributations they make to our lives. This book will stay in my mind. Beautifully written. another gem of a book I'd never have read if not for bookcrossing. Thanks for sharing with me.
Released 11 yrs ago (6/27/2012 UTC) at Lewins Cove, Newfoundland and Labrador Canada
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Anyway, thanks very much for sending this from Canada. Boo to Canada post and the other postal systems for giving us a fright about this book being lost.
The way the modern history of Korea was woven into the story was interesting, and how the mother's style of raising her different children was talked about was interesting. I felt the most empathy for the mother and also the youngest daughter. The other characters seemed very self absorbed, but then I suppose at a basic level everyone is.
The ending was strange and unsatisfying.
ETA I PMed J4Shaw and had no response.
Released 11 yrs ago (10/24/2012 UTC) at Wellington City, Wellington Province New Zealand
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I am sending this to Romy86 to continue its travels.
Ending was a bit unsatisfying. I too would have liked to have known what actually happened to the Mom.
Another book to highlight why motherhood is totally unappealing! The bit that made me especially cross was celebrating Mom's birthday with Dad's, like she wasn't even worth her own day after all she had done for her kids and husband over the years!
An interesting little novel. Glad I had a chance to read it. Will PM the next reader today and get it moving again.
Released 11 yrs ago (11/6/2012 UTC) at RABCK, -- By post or by hand/ in person -- France
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But you have to experience the sacrifice to understand and also nobody wants to notice the first signs of senility.
I didn't catch why the second daughter was so special. She obviously was not This Man's daughter.
Unsatisfied with the epilogue. To easy to let us in the blue.
Thanks for sharing.
Released 11 yrs ago (1/8/2013 UTC) at La Chapelle-sur-Erdre, Pays de la Loire France
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I've written for the next address.
* edit * I read it and liked it ok. Want to keep it travelling, so I will offer it as a bookring.
Bookring list:
1) mom2jwn - usa - ships in usa
I found this BC ID in a small children's book called Mr. Snow, when I inherited Ganesha's children's books.
It got registered in Hungary? Definetely not 320 pages lol.